In simple terms, the law of attraction is simply a concept of “Ask, believe, receive.” Part of this receiving process is the ability to let go and let your manifestation flow to you. Letting go is one of the most confusing ideas. It seems like a paradox to both believe and let it go. While there are a lot of different teachings out there that may seem to contradict, in the end, it is all leading to the same path just different journeys, and routes. As Ram Dass says “We’re all walking each other home.”

Any desire is given to us by the God within us.

Our desires come from our higher self because we are meant to experience them. That’s the truth. We are drawn to certain things, experiences, places, and people because we are meant to have them. And when our heart truly desires something, it simply cannot drop it for good unless you stop desiring it. It is a common misconception that letting go means moving on from the desire. Letting go means to STOP wanting and needing it because if you had what you want, you wouldn’t have that burning desire. It would just be natural to have it and you’d be basking in gratitude for it.

Imagine placing an order on eBay. You know your products are arriving whether or not you can track your order. You invested in these products, placed your details and now you’re receiving them. It doesn’t matter if you ordered a pair of shoes or twelve, you will still receive your order(s). You don’t wonder if it will work out or if the pair of shoes will be damaged or if eBay decides not to give you what you want. You just rest and surrender to the knowing that it is yours and it is coming. This is letting go in a nutshell. Giving up is canceling that eBay order. That’s the difference between letting go and giving up.

The big question is how do you let it go?

Let’s say you’re manifesting your dream house. You really want to get a specific house in a specific city. You set the intention for it, visualised it, and constructed affirmations. Now, your job is to identify the resistance without making it your identity. You are not the resistance, you are experiencing resistance. Ask yourself what is within you that is making you need it and worrying about it. Maybe it is a time crunch situation and you’re unhappy with your current living conditions and that’s why you can’t wait to leave.

Make Peace

So from there, you decide to make peace with the current situation and strengthen your imagination. Make peace with the fact that this is temporary and nothing lasts forever, and somehow where you are is leading you to your desire. Keep reassuring yourself till you feel a little lighter. Now create new beliefs about your concept of self as a manifestor and your desire. Decide that you are now the person who gets exactly what they want when they want, and that life is so easy for you. Now step into the version of you who is that person and who moved to their new home. That way, you completely align yourself with the chosen reality. Meditate on that feeling! Keep doing this every day till you drop the resistance and the attachment to the outcome. Simultaneously, keep yourself busy with other productive activities that keep your focus off the “when” and the “how.” It is already done.

How are you practicing letting go?

What are boundaries?

We hear the term ‘setting boundaries’ a lot, and while people understand the meaning of a boundary, not everyone knows how to set boundaries. It is a crucial aspect of your life that protects your mental space, your physical space, your time, and your energy. As we know by now, personal development starts with you. You have to be the one setting those boundaries! You are the one who gets to decide which boundaries to set and why, you are the one who decides to what extent these boundaries should be set.

We set boundaries based on our level of self-worth. If you have low self-worth, you probably allow people that disrespect you to continue to do that or to stay in your life. Of course, they are responsible for their own actions, and it is inexcusable. People who have themselves on a pedestal and have a sense of self-assurance, only allow people in their lives that match their standards. This is the starting point, raising your self-worth and maintaining standards. Accept the love and respect you deserve and desire, and never settle for less. As you build your self-worth, you begin to see with clearer eyes how you were letting toxic people in your life that drain you. Boundaries are set by communicating them. Choose to be assertive and express your boundaries if anyone crosses them, however, if someone continues to cross your boundaries, you might want to consider crossing them out of your life.

Why do we need them?

The purpose of boundaries is to look after yourself and your health, create better relationships with the ones you love, encourage effective communication, enhance your self-esteem and give yourself and others room for growth. Though this can only happen by setting HEALTHY boundaries.

Healthy Boundaries

Healthy boundaries involve the actions and behaviors you choose to accept from others and the way you show up for others, which is a form of self-care. The truth is that this happens when we set healthy boundaries with ourselves first – the content we consume, the way we treat ourselves, the way we speak to ourselves, the activities we take part in, speaking your mind, being assertive, being vulnerable, standing your ground, and how we take care of our own wellbeing.

Unhealthy Boundaries

Unhealthy boundaries happen when you choose to be powerless and letting others run the show. This is when you struggle to say no, when you become a people-pleaser when you let others make life decisions for you, giving too much without receiving the same level of love and respect in return, oversharing personal information with someone you barely know, going against your ethical values and morals for others. There is a fine line between compromising and sacrificing. You should never sacrifice parts of who you are or your identity or anything that is important to you. Compromising is finding common grounds to ensure that both parties are fulfilled.

Choose self-respect. Choose love. Choose kindness. Anything that doesn’t align should be out of the door this instant. Practice communicating your boundaries and eventually, it will become easier.

How do you communicate your boundaries?

The end of the year 2020 has given us a lot to reflect on. It gave us a lot to look back at from everything that happened in one of the most historic years. Based on these experiences and self-reflection, we have been able to plan our new year resolutions to equip ourselves better. On the other hand, a lot of us slack as soon as the excitement for the new year wears off. How can we stick to our goals and reach resolutions?

It takes more than just wishful thinking to achieve your goals and dreams. It is recommended to turn these wishes into S.M.A.R.T Goals, which is an acronym for Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Reliable, and Timely. This is a method to make your dreams a reality by putting it all on paper to make it as real to you as possible. By having a concise plan in a specific time-frame, you train your mind to work towards that goal to get that sense of achievement. Furthermore, you determine the necessary action you need to take to get things in motion. Things don’t always fall onto our lap, we work our way up to our dreams through knowledge and action. Unfortunately, there are factors that get in the way of your plan, and one of the biggest factors is FEAR. Fear is the real enemy that keeps you stuck until you can look into its eyes, and be able to tell it “NO!”

“Our brain is not designed to create happiness, as much as we wish it were so. Our brain evolved to promote survival. It saves the happy chemicals (dopamine, serotonin, and oxytocin) for opportunities to meet a survival need, and only releases them in short spurts which are quickly metabolized. This motivates us to keep taking steps that stimulate our happy chemicals.” – Loretta Breuning

Overcoming fear and negative thoughts takes a lot of mental discipline and challenging yourself. The reason why fear gets in the way and paralyses us from taking action is that our brain goes into flight or fight mode in unfamiliar situations, so it shuts down. The first step to overcoming fear is noticing the thoughts when they come up, following that, you can switch them to more productive thoughts that are in alignment with your goals. Most importantly, in order to train your mind for regular positive thinking, you have to practice that regularly. For instance, instead of dwelling on fears, doubts, pain, and insecurities at night, use this time wisely to reflect on the three positive things that happened that day and dwell on these feelings. Immerse yourself in these vibes, by surrounding yourself with optimistic people and consuming more positive content. You can always take part in volunteering roles that serve the community or even take part in short-term projects.

There are many ways to change your habitual thinking from long-term success in different aspects of your life. Our mental health and physical health go hand-in-hand, so it is crucial to nourish both. Our subconscious can be reprogrammed through mirror work, neuro-linguistic programming (NLP), and daily positive affirmations. Affirmations are statements that are thought and/or spoken out loud which are always absorbed by your subconscious mind. Just like we feed our bodies food that keeps us healthy and alive, affirmations work the same for our minds. We feed our minds statements that enhance our self-esteem and confidence in our goals.

What are your resolutions this year? How do you plan to achieve them?