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Are You Guilty of Spiritual Bypassing?

September 15, 2021 Robert Zink

Spiritual Bypassing describes the act of denying and suppressing negative emotions. In 1984, this term was created by John Welwood to express his experiences in a Buddhist community.

He defined it as “tendency to use spiritual ideas and practices to sidestep or avoid facing unresolved emotional issues, psychological wounds, and unfinished developmental tasks.”

The reason spiritual bypassing is being promoted in spiritual communities is due to the fear of sitting with heavy feelings that can cause a great level of discomfort. The intention behind spiritual bypassing is to push aside the emotions that way us down and to practice feeling good all day instead. Most people who join spiritual communities and begin their journey come from a lot of unresolved trauma, anger and pain. Therefore, spirituality is often viewed solely as a healing modality to experience inner peace. In many spiritual teachings, spiritual bypassing can be very subtle. The intention behind it is great, however being guilty of spiritual bypassing can result to emotional outburst, poor self-awareness and difficulties of self-acceptance.

Here are different ways we all participate in spiritual bypassing (also known as ‘toxic positivity’ in societial terms):

Viewing anger, pain and sadness as destructive emotions
Labels that belittle negative emotions, such as “Negative Nancy” or “Debbie Downer”
High vibration teachings that look down on low vibrational feelings. The truth is that our feelings ebb and flow, and we all have a wave of emotions each day. It’s about not making low vibration your dwelling place.
Condemning mental illnesses and fears
Common terms used to glorify spiritual bypassing such as:

- “Good vibes only!”
- “Everything happens for a reason”
- “Just be positive”

What To Do Instead:

Accept all parts of you – the good, the bad & the ugly. At the end of the day, we can’t know how happiness feels if we don’t know how sadness feels. You are NOT your thoughts or your feelings. They are simply one aspect of who you are.
Avoid labelling emotions – Describing emotions as positive and negative is what causes us to turn away from certain ones, like worry.
Develop Healthier Coping Mechanisms – Pushing our feelings away is a form of self-defense mechanism as we’re too scared to look fear in the eye. Look fear in the eye and develop a practice that helps you deal with the emotion, sit with it and allow it to pass out of your body.
Practice self-compassion – The more you have self-compassion, the more compassionate you become with others. The less judgements you hold about yourself and your feelings, the less you do with others.

As spiritual beings, we are having a human experience. Part of the human experience is shedding all these layers we have. We are complex, multifaceted beings, and the only way to practice self-awareness is to take a good look at every aspect of ourselves and be okay with. The only way to heal & shift is through awareness.

Have you been guilty of spiritual bypassing?

What is Letting Go?

August 18, 2021 Robert Zink

In simple terms, the law of attraction is simply a concept of “Ask, believe, receive.” Part of this receiving process is the ability to let go and let your manifestation flow to you. Letting go is one of the most confusing ideas. It seems like a paradox to both believe and let it go. While there are a lot of different teachings out there that may seem to contradict, in the end, it is all leading to the same path just different journeys, and routes. As Ram Dass says “We’re all walking each other home.”

Any desire is given to us by the God within us.

Our desires come from our higher self because we are meant to experience them. That’s the truth. We are drawn to certain things, experiences, places, and people because we are meant to have them. And when our heart truly desires something, it simply cannot drop it for good unless you stop desiring it. It is a common misconception that letting go means moving on from the desire. Letting go means to STOP wanting and needing it because if you had what you want, you wouldn’t have that burning desire. It would just be natural to have it and you’d be basking in gratitude for it.

Imagine placing an order on eBay. You know your products are arriving whether or not you can track your order. You invested in these products, placed your details and now you’re receiving them. It doesn’t matter if you ordered a pair of shoes or twelve, you will still receive your order(s). You don’t wonder if it will work out or if the pair of shoes will be damaged or if eBay decides not to give you what you want. You just rest and surrender to the knowing that it is yours and it is coming. This is letting go in a nutshell. Giving up is canceling that eBay order. That’s the difference between letting go and giving up.

The big question is how do you let it go?

Let’s say you’re manifesting your dream house. You really want to get a specific house in a specific city. You set the intention for it, visualised it, and constructed affirmations. Now, your job is to identify the resistance without making it your identity. You are not the resistance, you are experiencing resistance. Ask yourself what is within you that is making you need it and worrying about it. Maybe it is a time crunch situation and you’re unhappy with your current living conditions and that’s why you can’t wait to leave.

Make Peace

So from there, you decide to make peace with the current situation and strengthen your imagination. Make peace with the fact that this is temporary and nothing lasts forever, and somehow where you are is leading you to your desire. Keep reassuring yourself till you feel a little lighter. Now create new beliefs about your concept of self as a manifestor and your desire. Decide that you are now the person who gets exactly what they want when they want, and that life is so easy for you. Now step into the version of you who is that person and who moved to their new home. That way, you completely align yourself with the chosen reality. Meditate on that feeling! Keep doing this every day till you drop the resistance and the attachment to the outcome. Simultaneously, keep yourself busy with other productive activities that keep your focus off the “when” and the “how.” It is already done.

How are you practicing letting go?

Setting Boundaries

July 26, 2021 Robert Zink

What are boundaries?

We hear the term ‘setting boundaries’ a lot, and while people understand the meaning of a boundary, not everyone knows how to set boundaries. It is a crucial aspect of your life that protects your mental space, your physical space, your time, and your energy. As we know by now, personal development starts with you. You have to be the one setting those boundaries! You are the one who gets to decide which boundaries to set and why, you are the one who decides to what extent these boundaries should be set.

We set boundaries based on our level of self-worth. If you have low self-worth, you probably allow people that disrespect you to continue to do that or to stay in your life. Of course, they are responsible for their own actions, and it is inexcusable. People who have themselves on a pedestal and have a sense of self-assurance, only allow people in their lives that match their standards. This is the starting point, raising your self-worth and maintaining standards. Accept the love and respect you deserve and desire, and never settle for less. As you build your self-worth, you begin to see with clearer eyes how you were letting toxic people in your life that drain you. Boundaries are set by communicating them. Choose to be assertive and express your boundaries if anyone crosses them, however, if someone continues to cross your boundaries, you might want to consider crossing them out of your life.

Why do we need them?

The purpose of boundaries is to look after yourself and your health, create better relationships with the ones you love, encourage effective communication, enhance your self-esteem and give yourself and others room for growth. Though this can only happen by setting HEALTHY boundaries.

Healthy Boundaries

Healthy boundaries involve the actions and behaviors you choose to accept from others and the way you show up for others, which is a form of self-care. The truth is that this happens when we set healthy boundaries with ourselves first – the content we consume, the way we treat ourselves, the way we speak to ourselves, the activities we take part in, speaking your mind, being assertive, being vulnerable, standing your ground, and how we take care of our own wellbeing.

Unhealthy Boundaries

Unhealthy boundaries happen when you choose to be powerless and letting others run the show. This is when you struggle to say no, when you become a people-pleaser when you let others make life decisions for you, giving too much without receiving the same level of love and respect in return, oversharing personal information with someone you barely know, going against your ethical values and morals for others. There is a fine line between compromising and sacrificing. You should never sacrifice parts of who you are or your identity or anything that is important to you. Compromising is finding common grounds to ensure that both parties are fulfilled.

Choose self-respect. Choose love. Choose kindness. Anything that doesn’t align should be out of the door this instant. Practice communicating your boundaries and eventually, it will become easier.

How do you communicate your boundaries?

Should You Do Hypnosis or Meditation?

July 3, 2021 Robert Zink

The idea of changing one’s state of mind, mood, or moving from one emotion to another isn’t anything new.

As psychology has been developed, hypnotherapy emerged to treat mental conditions and behavioral changes. Similarly, there has been a rise in holistic approaches such as aromatherapy, massage therapy, naturopathy, meditation, and more. The purpose of these holistic approaches is to heal every aspect of our being in mind, body and spirit.

Here’s a brief history of hypnosis and meditation as well as ways that you may be able to apply either one to your life.

Self-Forgiveness

June 15, 2021 Robert Zink

Forgiving yourself can be one of the hardest things for human beings to do. In fact, some people don’t realize that they have put this pressure on themselves.

Everyone is on a different journey, and through each journey, there are bumps along the road. The ability to let go of hurt, pain and resentment seems almost impossible for people when they’re experiencing these emotions. We try so hard to live up to the expectation of having to be perfect, so we put a lot of pressure on ourselves when we fail or make a mistake.

Let’s get to the root of what forgiveness really means and how we achieve that.

In a nutshell, forgiveness is forgetting and moving on from the situation. The idea that you can forgive but not forget is false. If we continue to remember how someone hurt us, we will continue to bring it up whenever they wrong us or irritate us in any way. Once the hurt is dissolved, the memory starts to dissolve, too. If you don’t forget the mistake that you made, you will continue to self-loathe or be quick to criticize yourself on the smallest things. To do this, you have to take responsibility for your actions AND accept that this happened and it’s done. It is all in the past.

The more you dwell on something in the past that you cannot change, the more you make it your present and your future. If you wronged someone, own up to it and apologize. This is for you to grow, whether or not you are getting them back. Your job is to not make every human being love you.

Your job is to become more self-aware and use that awareness to better yourself.

Now, whenever the feelings of guilt or resentment come up, sit with it. Resisting your feelings makes them persist. So take a seat, and let the feeling pass. By doing this, you will give yourself permission to digest what happened, accept it and let it go. This is your time to feel to heal and to also reflect as to how and why you feel a certain way. Ask yourself “Do I want to continue to feel this way?” and “what is a better way to look at the situation?”

Here are some ways to look at the situation:

Every mistake is a learning experience
Perfection means stagnation. Growth stops. Imperfection means more growth.
This is NOT serving me. So what would serve me?
Bringing myself down does not lift me or others up

This is also a perfect time to practice self-compassion and self-love. You are so focused on how you hate a number of things about yourself and the things you failed at.

Ask yourself

What am I good at?
What have I succeeded at?

If you can’t find the answers to these questions, now is your time to shine. Now is your time to set clear goals while also practicing self-compassion. Be more gentle with yourself. If you continue to punish yourself, you will continue to be stuck in this very moment. It is time for a change. It is your choice to make that decision now. You can do better, so start doing better.

Here are three ways to practice self-compassion:

Be Your Own BFF – Write down how you would respond to a friend who feels down or guilty, and give that friend advice. Use what you wrote to read it to yourself daily. By treating yourself the way you treat a friend, you form a healthier relationship with yourself which is the most important relationship in the world.
Change Your Inner Critic – Monitor your self-talk to recognise when you’re being self-critical. From there you can dissolve the criticism by giving yourself permission to switch these thoughts to self-compassionate ones.
Journal & Mindfulness – Write down the inner critic voice you hear to understand the root of this self-talk. Use this as an opportunity to practice mindfulness to let go of the feelings of shame and guilt that come up from journaling. Journaling is a great way to track your progress and to stay on top of your journey.

How are you going to practice self-forgiveness today?

Manifesting Confidence

May 16, 2021 Robert Zink

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Wanna Reach Resolutions? Train Your Mind

January 18, 2021 Robert Zink

The end of the year 2020 has given us a lot to reflect on. It gave us a lot to look back at from everything that happened in one of the most historic years. Based on these experiences and self-reflection, we have been able to plan our new year resolutions to equip ourselves better. On the other hand, a lot of us slack as soon as the excitement for the new year wears off. How can we stick to our goals and reach resolutions?

It takes more than just wishful thinking to achieve your goals and dreams. It is recommended to turn these wishes into S.M.A.R.T Goals, which is an acronym for Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Reliable, and Timely. This is a method to make your dreams a reality by putting it all on paper to make it as real to you as possible. By having a concise plan in a specific time-frame, you train your mind to work towards that goal to get that sense of achievement. Furthermore, you determine the necessary action you need to take to get things in motion. Things don’t always fall onto our lap, we work our way up to our dreams through knowledge and action. Unfortunately, there are factors that get in the way of your plan, and one of the biggest factors is FEAR. Fear is the real enemy that keeps you stuck until you can look into its eyes, and be able to tell it “NO!”

“Our brain is not designed to create happiness, as much as we wish it were so. Our brain evolved to promote survival. It saves the happy chemicals (dopamine, serotonin, and oxytocin) for opportunities to meet a survival need, and only releases them in short spurts which are quickly metabolized. This motivates us to keep taking steps that stimulate our happy chemicals.” – Loretta Breuning

Overcoming fear and negative thoughts takes a lot of mental discipline and challenging yourself. The reason why fear gets in the way and paralyses us from taking action is that our brain goes into flight or fight mode in unfamiliar situations, so it shuts down. The first step to overcoming fear is noticing the thoughts when they come up, following that, you can switch them to more productive thoughts that are in alignment with your goals. Most importantly, in order to train your mind for regular positive thinking, you have to practice that regularly. For instance, instead of dwelling on fears, doubts, pain, and insecurities at night, use this time wisely to reflect on the three positive things that happened that day and dwell on these feelings. Immerse yourself in these vibes, by surrounding yourself with optimistic people and consuming more positive content. You can always take part in volunteering roles that serve the community or even take part in short-term projects.

There are many ways to change your habitual thinking from long-term success in different aspects of your life. Our mental health and physical health go hand-in-hand, so it is crucial to nourish both. Our subconscious can be reprogrammed through mirror work, neuro-linguistic programming (NLP), and daily positive affirmations. Affirmations are statements that are thought and/or spoken out loud which are always absorbed by your subconscious mind. Just like we feed our bodies food that keeps us healthy and alive, affirmations work the same for our minds. We feed our minds statements that enhance our self-esteem and confidence in our goals.

What are your resolutions this year? How do you plan to achieve them?

Coping with Depression

December 21, 2020 Robert Zink

Depression is one of the most common mental illnesses, especially this year with the pandemic. It has been quite a struggle and no one knows what is happening next or how much longer this will last. The unknown future is creating a lot of anxiety, tension and angst which are all interlinked with depression. We are told to just stay positive, pray and hope for the best until it passes, which is true to an extent. However, crossing our fingers is NOT a coping mechanism, it’s a mindset shift that helps us hold on to the fact that a brighter future is coming. If you are battling depression and you cannot currently afford therapy, then this is for you. There are various approaches to coping with depression holistically.

Here are a few approaches that you can try and continue to do what resonates the most.

Social & Mental Approach

This is the social and mental aspect which we have some control over. Our feelings are products of our thoughts, so the first step here to take is to identify any irrational thoughts. Make sure to catch every thought, and ask yourself “does this really align me with where I want to be?” If the answer is no, ask yourself what is a more productive perspective to look at this. By monitoring your thoughts, you have a handle on a huge part of your healing. Your emotions are always valid, so allow yourself to open up, which takes us to the next point. Reach out to someone you trust and know that you can be yourself with, it could be a colleague, a neighbor, an acquaintance, a friend or family member. There is nothing wrong with asking for support and leaning on someone. Even though our happiness is our responsibility, we are still allowed to let someone hold our hands through this journey. Most importantly, set boundaries for yourself. If it feels too overwhelming to be around too many people, then limit the number of people you hangout with and choose the ones you are willing to let in.

The Personal Approach

This is where you stay in touch with your emotions and become your own best friend. Start your day with the Ho’oponopono prayer, which is a Hawaian Prayer for self-compassion and forgiveness. Give yourself the forgiveness, love and kindness you are seeking from the world by repeating this mantra “I love you. I’m sorry. Please forgive me. Thank you.” You can place a hand on your heart and close your eyes as you repeat this. Daily mindfulness and meditation really helps ground you and centres you, so make it a habit to meditate 2-3 times a day if you’re dealing with such painful and hopeless emotions. The next thing you want to do is set daily goals to work towards, things to look forward to that are actually healthy for your mind, body and soul. You can make an hour or two out of your day working on a hobby, some time for self-care and reading a book. These are all things that give you a reason to wake up and it reconnects you with yourself. Create a new routine for yourself to implement all of these, and watch yourself blossom and glow!

Overall Health

Physical health and mental health go hand in hand. Our emotional well-being can impact our intake of food, our energy levels and the number of hours we sleep. Physical health conditions, such as hormone imbalance can make us easily agitated and stressed. Therefore, it is important to nurture our bodies the right way. Nutrition, sleep and exercise can drastically change our lives. Start by consuming nourishing foods that are rich in antioxidants, minerals and vitamins, and start cutting down on alcohol, sugar and carbohydrates. Our bodies need all nutrients in specific amounts and that depends on your BMI, BMR, gender, age and many more. Speak to a nutritionist if you can to create a new plan or look into the tips that are given here. Add to your diet some serotonin boosting foods such as nuts, seeds, leafy greens, bananas, tofu, lentils and beans. If you’re a meat-eater, eggs, salmon and turkey are great serotonin boosting foods. Next, create an exercise plan that you would enjoy (going for a walk, swimming, yoga, cardio, etc…), as physical exercise can reduce depression by 26%. Lastly, you have to get at least 8 hours of sleep every night. The best way to do this is by specifying a specific time to head to bed and wake up. Therefore, you start to train your brain to be ready for sleep at a specific hour.

Let us know which of these of these tips have been helpful. Have a great day because you absolutely deserve it.

Holiday Vibes: How to Ground Your Energy During The Holidays

November 25, 2020 Robert Zink

“ROCK BOTTOM BECAME THE SOLID FOUNDATION IN WHICH I REBUILT MY LIFE.” – J.K. ROWLING

The holiday season is a blessing to many, and a curse to others. It is the time of the year that we all look forward to spending it with our loved ones that we miss. This year has had its ups and a lot of its downs, so this time of the year is difficult for many knowing they cannot celebrate it with specific people while coping with the pandemic. On the contrary, as advanced manifestors we are aware that energy flows where attention goes. The more we focus on something the more it replicates. Our subconscious mind doesn’t judge positive from negative, it just records everything we speak, think and feel. How can we protect our energies this time of the year without neglecting our feelings?

It is absolutely crucial to protect your energy. While there are circumstances and people that seem unavoidable, there is always a level of control that we possess. We can always decide how we respond to things in our lives in a healthy manner no matter how dire things seem. Start your day by meditating for at least 15 minutes to ground yourself and get your mindset ready for the rest of the day. Meditating allows you to bring yourself back to the present when your mind is drifting to different places, people, concerns and worries. While it might not solve your issues or heal your broken heart, it increases your vibration. Next, create a relaxing environment which helps to elevate your energy levels. Place candles, use a scent and declutter your house. Decluttering radiates a sense of inner peace and comfort. This all helps to reduce stress levels and keeps you in a more relaxed mindframe. Throughout the day, tunnel vision on you and on any triggers that pop up so you can immediately tackle them before they duplicate. Mental diet is a lifestyle not a quick fix, so stay on top of your thoughts and feelings.

Plan your day to get a clear navigation and a sense of direction on where you’re going. If you’re missing someone during this holiday, then ask a trusted person for support to spend the day with you, to look after you and to also occupy your day. As you do that, set boundaries with others to have some time for self-reflection and to spend less time with negative people in your household. If you’re spending the holidays with family members that bring you down, set a limit on the amount of time you’re spending with them. Speaking of negativity, free up some time of your day to release the negative energy through exercise and journaling. It allows you to process your emotions and detox your body. Your physical and mental health go hand in hand, so make sure you nurture yourself in mind, body and spirit. Lastly, self-talk is the core of your mindset. The way you feel about yourself is a reflection of your inner conversations that you have with and about yourself. Make sure you start treating yourself the way you would treat a friend. Shower yourself with so much love, compassion and patience. You absolutely deserve it!